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7 Secrets to Keep Marriage Strong During Tough Times

 

 

By Lornie Kass

 

There are a host of different reasons why a relationship starts to breakdown. Job insecurity and having not enough money to meet daily living expenses are among the most common causes.

 

Sad to say, being retrenched from work is a real threat to marriage. Relationships can crumble under severe emotional and financial tension. It can be difficult to keep a relationship going when days are rosy, let alone surviving through hard times like today’s global recession. Here are a few practical steps you can adopt to avoid unforeseen conflicts and misunderstandings, and stay strong in a relationship.

 

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1. When confronted with challenges, a whirlpool of emotions will emerge – denial, resentment, fear, anger, disappointment, or even humiliation. Your best approach is to remain calm no matter what the storm. A calmed mind allows you to put things into prospective and have better control over how to handle a major crisis like job loss.

 

While it is perfectly okay to sit at home and brood over whatever bad situations or problems that you are facing righ now, keep in mind that letting yourself dwell in negativity is not going to do you any good. Self pity will only get you into a downward spiral of low self esteem and impact your confidence. This can lead to you feeling trapped in a dark bottomless pit of hopelessness and despair, and makes it a lot harder for you to get back on your feet again.

 

Therefore, try to think and maintain positive thoughts about the future, despite all the odds. It may be easier said than done, but this simple technique is a very powerful mental tool to create the right mindset to turn adversity into advantage.

 

How you respond and deal with the situation will influence how quickly you move through negative emotions. The worst thing you can do to yourself is to give up completely without even trying.

 

 

 

2. Discuss the situation without arguing and find practical solutions to your issues. Communication is the golden key to any successful relationship so you have to be very honest with your spouse about your current financial position. Talk about where the money is coming from and where it goes, and do whatever is necessary to stretch your dollars. Accept and be realistic about the future, and expect things to take some time to return to normal.

 

When good times recede, and things are not the same as before, it’s very important that you learn to readjust expectations. If you spend a sizeable chunk of your disposable income on non-essential items – luxury products and services – such as expensive meals, watches and vacations, then you should seriously reduce and control your spending or find ways to bring in more money.

 

If you and your spouse cannot agree with something, don’t fight over it especially when the children are around. Instead, listen carefully and try to see things from one another’s point of view. Try to make some sort of compromises in a healthy way, with some mutual give-and-take until you both reach an amicable agreement.

 

 

 

3. Make sound financial provisions, and check eligibility for unemployment benefits if you are registered. Don’t be afraid to ask for financial assistance, and rope in united strength from family and friends whenever possible. Being laid off at work during tough times is not something to be ashamed of.

 

It is also a good idea to seek help from professional counselors or your church, if you find it terribly difficult to talk things calmly with your spouse. A little help from a marriage therapist can go a long way in easing the marital stress in trouble couples.

 

 

 

4. The psychological impact of retrenchment can often be severe for a man. A man who has lost his job feels defeated and show his loss of self esteem through bouts of anger. Hence be more tolerant of your partner’s occasional flare ups, and don’t nag.

 

More importantly, try your level best to maintain a stoic front at home. Strong emotional support is critical in helping struggling couples overcome a financial storm.

 

 

 

5. Understand that retrenchment is a result of an economic downturn and it’s rarely personal so don’t let it adversely affect your morale and self confidence. When one door closes, another may open for you.

 

Sometimes, transitions maybe blessings in disguise as they make you refocus on what is truly important in your life. It may also actually help you discover your skills as well as strengths and change career direction.

 

 

 

6. Explore what interests you, and figure out what you really would like to do. Make good use of the time you have during this career break and do the things you wouldn’t be able to do if you were stuck in an office all day. This not only helps you restore postive moods but also bring peace to your troubled spirit.

 

For example, playing basketball with the kids, work on your home improvement woodwork projects with your partner, or simply find things to laugh about.

 

 

 

7. Keep yourself busy and stay physically active. Try to exercise on a regular basis. Exercise releases endorphins, which will keep your mind energetic and help you cope with high levels of stress.

 

 

 

Remeber, a strong relationship or marriage is something no credit crunch will ever take away. Money comes and goes but family is forever.

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